I don’t remember the exact date I found Shani Silver’s podcast, but I found the subject matter interesting. A way to reframe being single to not see it as a horrible thing. As someone who has been single for all of her life I was like sign me up. I joined her Facebook Group and subscribed to her Medium content.

Then I heard she was writing a book, and I was once again on board. There had been times when listening to the podcast when I would cock my head to the side at an idea that I felt might have been a bit “out there”, so I knew what I was getting into with the book.

Let me say I got much more than I bargained for in a good way. I have always been a more visual person than anything so I thinking reading Shani’s ideas on paper rather than listening to them made them that much more impactful to me. Being able to read about her stories about how swiping on dating apps but her into the “Pit of Despair” in life, just echoed my own very recent experiences. And after reading about 15 pages into the book, I once again deleted all of my apps.

If I wanted to give a full review of this book it would take days and I don’t have that, because I need to go out and enjoy my time as a single woman and start planning my solo trip to Palm Springs. But I will say this, don’t be scared by the idea of deleting the apps, that was one of the first things that I heard Shani say and I was a bit perplexed, but I get it now. After being in that pit and knowing how it feels when you give a guy your number and then he just decides to unmatch you and never text you, its not a great feeling. But the idea that you can be happy and still be single is one that I’m now open to embracing. Shani is right, the freedom is great. I can do what I want, when I want with out having to run it by anyone.

This book gets 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥.. Once you read the book you will get the reference.